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Why you should not expect so much from people

Why you should not expect so much from people

We attract the same kind of energy we exhume. When you are a good friend to others you will attract people who will love you and want to take care of you. Most times or not we do not receive any reciprocation. Nothing, instead they go ahead to toy with our feelings and drag our kindness to the mud. Some may have even considered your huge hand of kindness as nothing and burnt the finger that fed them

If you are that kind of person, it is not a problem. You have got a good heart and should not lose that heart on the account of others. I need you to understand that man is not perfect and will not always behave the way you want them to

 We have all been there in a situation where you give a person your 100 percent best. You put everything into them and you would do anything for them. Always there when they need you; you are kind even when they do not deserve it.

your love for them is without reserve and have given your entire self to building that relation

Have you read this post? what you should do when you feel down

You go above and beyond for this person and you are so hurt when they do not treat you the same way back. I know what it is like to feel this way sometimes and you feel so drained and beaten up seeing all of your hard efforts not even gaining you a slight bit of kindness in return. You can’t expect people to treat you as good as you treat them

I am never someone who expects so much from people or tries to force them to treat me the way I treat them. I am always of the opinion that they eventually see how good I am to them and reciprocate the kindness if they have got the time.

This article blessed my life How to have zero expectations

We always get heartbroken each time we show kindness to people while expecting a payback or a pat on the shoulder. Jesus never asked anyone to be his friend because he healed them or helped them cast demons away from their body.

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Do you see Jesus telling the blind Bartimeaus or the woman with issue of blood and imploring them even begging them to follow him? He heals them and says tell others and simply moves along

Even the twelve disciples did not follow him out of self pity. He only made a call out to them and said come, I will make you. It is like saying well, I don’t really care if you choose to honour my hand of followership but if you do, you will not regret it.

There is something that I will make of you. I want to turn your life around. Eventually they saw into his intentions and followed him.

Why you should not expect so much from people

Jesus reinstates Peter

Even when peter went back to fishing after that Jesus had resurrected, he still went to get him back and to strengthen him. Jesus did not expect anything from any soul. He was good and kind to them because it is in his DNA. Goodness is the nature of Christ and so should be ours

Imagine you were in the shoes of Jesus. You have trained someone on the right path to follow and given them blue print for the mission ahead but suddenly return to see them back to old habits just because they felt they do not understand your blueprint

“I’m going out to fish,” Simon Peter told them, and they said, “We’ll go with you.” So they went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing.

Early in the morning, Jesus stood on the shore, but the disciples did not realize that it was Jesus.

He called out to them, “Friends haven’t you any fish?”

“No,” they answered

John chapter 23 verses 3 to 5

Do you see this? They did not realize that it was Jesus; they forgot his voice despite being with him for years.

I imagine Jesus at the bank of the river wagging his head before calling out peter to say friends “have you caught anything?”

Jesus must have thought but why? Peter, you were the one who saw the revelation that I was the son of God.  So, how did you get around to old profession of fishing? Why did you drag others along with you?

Jesus did not go ahead to consider and mourn the disappointment he had in peter and the disciples. Instead he called out to them again. He gave them the fish they needed and then sat to eat with and you might think Jesus would just leave like that. No he reinstated peter

When they had finished eating, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon son of John, do you love me more than these?”

This was Jesus saying friend I do not blame you for your lack of sight and do not expect you to immediately behave as I would that you. Instead I will tell you what you must do and how I am going to lead you. He kept showing Peter more and telling more things to happen

Why you should not expect so much from people:

1) Humans will always slip up and make mistakes. it is not always that one is perfect or want to show kindness to you.

The less expectations you place on humans.the better for you and your state of heart.

2) When we expect things from anyone other than ourselves, we are likely to be regularly dissatisfied & disappointed. We have zero control over the actions or words of anyone but ourselves.

3) Jesus has called us to show love and kindness to others. if you claim to love God,then you will do things for people without any expectations. it is the nature of Christ

4) expecting anything hurts truly. So yeah you don’t have to expect anything from anyone. But that doesn’t mean that everyone is bad or mean. It’s just that people don’t know what you are expecting from them. They don’t know what you want. And plus even if you will tell them about your expectations maybe they fulfill them because it is there life, there choice if they do it or not.

Quit expecting stuffs from people whether they see the kindness or not is left to their conscience. We must get above the level of giving and expecting to be given in return.

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My name is Precious Jewel Oli. I am a graduate of Linguistics
A lot simpler summary of me would be a God chaser, Minister, Writer and entrepreneur. I am a Nigerian.
I absolutely love cooking (edible and spiritual foods) so most times you might meet me with a jotter and a Biro, some good music or sermon is an addition or better yet tucked under my blanket at my leisure times.
I am learning to love my quirks and minister to the lives of others in order to for them to see themselves through the lens of God

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