You will find tips for when you are dealing with depression as a christian and also read my story of how I overcame depression.
Depression knocked my door. It was this time about five years ago that I sat in my room and contemplated suicide. I was desperate to take my own life and end it all that afternoon. I had read somewhere previously that overdose of drugs could kill you.
Since that was my only available option, I decided to give it a chance. I was saved then and have just gotten out of secondary but was having a nervous breakdown and anxiety issues caused by my failure in math and no admission that year. Intelligent and the best in art subjects in school so I could not reconcile my failure in math and inability to secure admission
I felt like a disappointment and a shame to my parents. All I ever wanted was to set a good track record for my siblings to follow but I failed
It was still that same period that my parents had serious marital issues and about to divorce. I could hear voices in my head telling me to take my life and end it all. The voices were with me morning, afternoon and night and kept urging me to just kill myself and settle this age long feud and thought my death would actually settle the dispute and make everyone happy.
I was young and stupid. I was wrong.
Have you read this article on What to do when you are scared of yourself
To the girl dealing with depression
Most persons have the impression that being a Christian means that you instantly learn to trust God and then anxiety and worries for the future goes away. It can be difficult living your everyday life with so much weight on your shoulder and expectations you are not sure how to meet up to.
Perhaps you are that shoulder that other family members are relying on. You just saw your term result and it is so embarrassing or perhaps your parents have issues in marriage or you got issues with your spouse.
I need you to understand that you are not the only one passing through hard times. you are not the only one dealing with depression.
There is a lot of misunderstanding surrounding depression. It has taken our culture a long time to understand mental health, and there is still a long way to go. I think it’s a hard thing to understand even from the inside.
Here in Nigeria, mental health is not even talked about much. Even when you do, believe me you would be rushed down to a psychiatrist. So, people basically live with the pain and the hole in their heart hoping to take their life someday or probably get better
Depression really affects all aspects of our being. It affects us physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When it begins to affect our spiritual life, it can feel like we start to lose who we are as God’s children.
Maybe it seems like God leaves us, or maybe we start to think there is something wrong with our faith.
It has been a hard journey learning to reconcile my depression with my belief in God, but I have learned some important things along the way.
I need you to understand some facts while dealing with depression as a christian
Depression is not faithlessness
Depression is not as a result of your faithlessness in God. some folks just come around the corner when you are having a hard time and hit you hard with the faith sermon that you are not trusting God enough and that is why you are stuck in a state of depression.
Being depressed does not come as a result of your lack of faith in God’s word. It is a sickness, a disease that needs to be consciously treated. Committing bible verses or prayers to memory may not save you from the clutches of depression
Having faith in God would help us through depression. As humans we cannot help but worry. Even the lord asked us in the scriptures:
Therefore I say unto you, Be not anxious for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than the food, and the body than the raiment? Behold the birds of the heaven, that they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are not ye of much more value than they? 27 And which of you by being anxious can add one cubit unto the measure of his life? Be not therefore anxious for the morrow: for the morrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof
Matthew 6:25-34 American Standard Version (ASV)
God knows that the humans he created worry too much. What to eat, school fees, getting a good job and sustaining their marriages. Sooner or later, our faith is replaced by worry and pushes us down the depression slide and for some weak minded persons; suicide
Depression is not punishment for lack of faith
It feels like God is punishing you for not trusting him enough and then your heart begins to hurt from the whole analysis
God can never afflict us with depression neither would he punish you with anxiety issues for not trusting him.
You are his child no matter what as well as a student in the school of faith
To someone who has never dealt with depression as a christian, it may look like we are making the choice to be sad or to not do the things we should be doing. But we know that is not the case. We don’t choose to feel the way we do. And even if other people cannot understand, God does. Sometimes the “other people” are just the voices in our head, making us feel guilty.
I remember nasty comments on the page of a certain young man who took his life, some persons kept hauling abuses at him and saying nasty things about him.
Depression is something we need healing for and deliverance from- not something we have done wrong.
God does not hate you
I emphasized earlier; God does not hate you neither have you fallen out of favour in his eyes if you are dealing with depression as a christian or happen to fall into depression. We are all students in the school of spirit
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are–yet he did not sin.
Even if you do not feel his presence, just remember that he is with you and lives in you. Satan always wants us to feel like we don’t deserve God and that he has forsaken us in our time of troubles.
He did same to Job through his friends who kept telling him to curse God and die. I could imagine the height of depression that young man was immersed in but he trusted God
We just need to cone to the point of admitting our helplessness and weakness before God. Only then can he come to your rescue. You can pretend to be strong before others but not before God that is if you have a good relationship with him. Learn to humble yourself like a child and suck honey from the rock
Run to people for help
Being a macho or strong headed person does not work at all in the face of depression. Seek help if you must and you should actually
In my case, I never had anyone to talk to while I was dealing with depression as a christian . Eventually, God provided an opportunity for me to pour out my heart to a friend after I got admission and she really helped out. She narrated her own ordeal to me, about the voices in her head and how she had been affected.
I learnt faith even in the face of anxiety through this friend and regained my spiritual life and relationship with God
One of the lines she told me was: it is not your fault that things are going badly with your parents.
Those words really sank in
It is not your fault that you never got the job even with your excellent degrees, it is not your fault that you relationships are not working out despite your genuine efforts
If you die, life continues. You are not Jesus, girl and even his death has not saved the entire universe. Do you think your death would do that redemption work?
Dear friend, As a christian dealing with depression, depression has every power to affect your relationship with God and ruin your spiritual life, before long you start to lose faith in God entirely and start to feel like he does not exist because of the lies the devil plants in your heart everyday
The enemy loves to see us doubt God. Don’t give him that chance
Certain things you can also do:
1) Pray about everything. I understand that in the face of uncertainty most times prayer is tiresome to employ and believe me that is one of the activities of the accuser. To make you weak in the knees and focus more on your problems rather than the creator who knows the end from the beginning
You need to read this article on How to pray when you lack words
2) Talk to someone about it. A Christian counselor or that your friend who is spiritually sound not those kind of gossip friends who only want to hear your problems and then go through the day sharing your depression issues to every ear that cares to listen. Be genuinely accountable to someone that can help you pray and check up on you.
Also, if you need to see a doctor or therapist, by all means please do
3) Desist from staying alone at all times. One of the effects of depression is to seize you from the crowd and leave you in isolation. That should not be your resort. Go out and visit friends. Do some work, exercise your body, take some classes and meet new friends. Keep your mind and hand busy
4) Lastly, though it sounds stupid to your pains, trust God. Speak his words to your heart. Always remember that he sees you and knows you have needs. The word of God has a way of stirring our dead faith
“But if the Spirit of him that raised up Jesus from the dead dwell in you, he that raised up Christ from the dead shall also quicken your mortal bodies by his Spirit that dwelleth in you.”
Trust God through this phasewhile you are dealing with depression as a christian . God loves you and will not let you be caught in this mess for too long